How to sustain relationship with loved ones- Get a book to guide you

Relationships with loved ones especially with those who understands us, predicts and notice any change in our moods or character are the ones most cherished and we’ll always wish it would last forever.

When we speak of these cherished moments, we would say the times I had my first hangout with a real friend, the moment my friend(s) and I did secret things no one knew about, the times my friend(s) and i fought over little issues, the moments I would love to have again, the times..…. and times to always remember.

It’s often said “when you find real friends, keep them because it’s hard to find one.” Friends who are real, free to discuss and share major ideas to build themselves are admired and valued but how do they sustain this amazing friendships?

You can only sustain a relationship if you have found out how valuable the relationship is to you.

Valuing a relationship is the key to sustaining it.

Oyinsunkanmi’s ideas

Find out if you value the relationship:

When you value or cherish something so much even when others don’t see it that way, you still tend to give more time and show more affection towards that thing because you know how important it is to you.

For instance, when you got your new shoes you have always wanted vs the one you don’t like maybe as a gift or you bought it yourself, the difference in maintenance the shoes got was because of the value you placed on it.

So if you don’t value a relationship you wont invest more effort to build and strengthen it but if the relationship means the world to you try sustaining and maintaining it with these steps:

Sustain a relationship with these steps

Communicate honestly:

What do i mean by honest communication? Honest communication is sharing each other’s thoughts, ideas and feelings with truthful intentions.

A relationship is sustainable when partners are free to share their thoughts or ideas when communicating. Being truthful and free to discuss with your friend or partner how they can be better or how both of you can be better versions of yourself can help sustain the relationship.

Choosing to trust your friend means they are reliable and you’re confident that their actions are tolerable.

Oyinsunkanmi’s ideas

Develop trust:

If you cherish every moment you have spent with your friend(s) then choose to be honest with your partner in actions and words in order to gain their trust.

Trust can be developed and maintained when honest communication is experienced in a relationship.

Accept them:

Accepting your partner for who they are and not trying to change them but improving them is a way to keep a relationship going. Acceptance yields respect when it is emulated.

Appreciate their opinions, do not condemn them instead discuss better on how that may serve as a benefit to solve every other problems.

Sustaining a relationship with amazing friend(s) is a great way to keep the precious moments to always happen.

There are times when you both disagreed on same issues and it seems like you wanted to end it but if you take your time to reflect on those issues(moments) you will find out they actually united you more, so trust those moments they are always remembered to be the best part of a relationship.

Get a book to guide you through maintaining your relationship with your friend(s)

Book appreciation: by Ariel levy

“In this openhearted book, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman show us how a friendship can be as rewarding and enduring as a marriage, and they urge us to value it accordingly—as they clearly do. An inspiration.”
—Ariel Levy, author of “The Rules Do Not Apply.”


I am inspired

I was reading through a great book and as I read every line in it, it kept on motivating me, giving me ideal knowledge on how life is and how to live it now, I can say I’m really inspired.

So, I decided to share some of these motivational words or lines in the book with you, make sure to make it impactful in your life.

At the end of going through these lines, you can also get your own copy of this great book or download it.

Worried with usage of great book? Want to Know the title? No worries, I want this to be a suspense, anyway. The title would be revealed at the end of this post. Keep reading for now…….

Motivation 1: Questions

  • If your life ended tomorrow, what would you regret not doing?

  • If this were the last day of your life, would you spend it the way you’re spending today?
  • Ask yourself, who could I have become if I had finally done the things I always wanted to do?

The gift of deciding to face your mortality without turning away or flinching is the gift of recognizing that because you willl die, you must live now.

Whether you flounder or flourish is always in your hands—you are the single biggest influence in your life. Your journey begins with a choice to get up, step out, and live fully.

Motivation 2:

  • …….Like me, you might have experienced things that caused you to deem yourself unworthy. I know for sure that healing the wounds of the past is one of the biggest and most worthwhile challenges of life. It’s important to know when and how you were programmed, so you can change the program. And doing so is your responsibility, no one else’s.
  • There is one irrefutable law of the universe: We are each responsible for our own life. If you’re holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you’re wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn’t receive.
  • Begin noticing how every day brings a new opportunity for your growth. How buried disagreements with your mother show up in arguments with your spouse. How unconscious feelings of unworthiness appear in everything you do (and don’t do).

All these experiences are your life’s way of urging you to leave the past behind and make yourself whole.
Pay attention. Every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road.
Keep moving. Full speed ahead.

Motivation 3:

  • ….When you have nothing to be ashamed of, when you know who you are and what you stand for, you stand in wisdom.
  • Whenever I’m faced with a difficult decision, I ask myself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid of making a mistake, feeling rejected, looking foolish, or being alone? I know for sure that when you remove the fear, the answer you’ve been searching for comes into focus.
  • And as you walk into what you fear, you should know for sure that your deepest struggle can, if you’re willing and open, produce your greatest strength.

No matter what challenge you may be facing, you must remember that while the canvas of your life is painted with daily experiences, behaviors, reactions, and emotions, you’re the one controlling the brush.

Motivation 4:

  • When you can see obstacles for what they are, you never lose faith in the path it takes to get you where you want to go. Because this I know for sure: Who you’re meant to be evolves from where you are right now.
  • So learning to appreciate your lessons, mistakes, and setbacks as stepping-stones to the future is a clear sign you’re moving in the right direction
  • It’s true that we all need the kind of relationships that enrich and sustain us. But it’s also true that if you’re looking for someone to heal and complete you—to shush that voice inside you that has always whispered You’re not worth anything—you are wasting your time. Why? Because if you don’t already know that you have worth, there’s nothing your friends, your family, or your mate can say that will completely convince you of that.

Look inward, the loving begins with you.

Motivation 5:

  • ……When you make loving others the story of your life, there’s never a final chapter, because the legacy continues. You lend your light to one person, and he or she shines it on another and another and another. And I know for sure that in the final analysis of our lives—when the to-do lists are no more, when the frenzy is finished, when our e-mail inboxes are empty—the only thing that will have any lasting value is whether we’ve loved others and whether they’ve loved us.

Now, it’s better to do the reading yourself for you to have better understanding of the contents and also get inspired as you read through.

Ready to know the title of this great book! Ok, I will reveal it to you now. The book is written by ….. “Oprah Winfrey”. I know most of you know her well, so what book particularly am I speaking of, it is What I know for sure by Oprah Winfrey.

Source: What I know for sure by Oprah Winfrey.