You might be asking yourself;
How do I stay contented even when I don’t have enough?
The truth is, you can not have enough if you’re not content with the ones you have.
Maybe you’re thinking, you need to get this trendy clothes before you will be satisfied. The simple fact about this is, life will never stop giving you reasons to become better, to do more or explore. So why not practice contentment instead of running after those.
What is Contentment?
Contentment is deriving happiness in what we do, what we have, and who we are presently. Contentment is generating self satisfaction when we focus on what we have rather than what we don’t have.
When I say be content with what you have, do I actually mean you should not try to achieve more, improve better or set more goals in life?
Being contented and grateful for the life you have, will always keep you in the better place to benefits more from life.
Happiness within you attracts positivity to your life. Positivity like the job you desire, better friends and good state of mind.
Let’s do this simple analogy;
If contentment is happiness, while discontentment is sadness and happiness attracts positivity to you while sadness attracts negativity like jealousy, envy and unnecessary anger. Then it’s better to be content with what we have so as to attract positivity.
5 habits to cultivate to stay contented
- Accept who you are
- Don’t compare
- Learn to see things from the bright side
- Have a right mindset
- Do what you love
1. Accept who you are:
Self acceptance is a better way to build self esteem and contentment.
Self acceptance is loving oneself inspite of one’s insecurities. Be self aware or identify what your insecurities are and improve on it. check out how to handle insecurities in our previous post.
Accepting who you are after identifying your insecurities and allowing the silent and whispering voices speak would build self contentment.
2. Don’t compare:
Comparison is only done when you’re trying to point out between two or more which is better than the other.
So when we compare ourselves to other people, it’s either we feel bad, that is, (jealousy, envy or low self-esteem) or good about it, that is, (pride).
Comparing ourselves to people based on how they appear, their income, etc without putting into consideration, their struggles, work and experiences would never make a fair comparison.
3. Learn to see things from the bright side:
Seeing life from the brighter side, will allow us to appreciate all the good things we have worked for and achieved.
This enables us to enjoy the present situation we are, instead of dwelling on what we don’t have.
In every situation you might find yourself, always be grateful for what you have.
I Know you want that shoe but believe me appreciating this one you have, is the only way to stay happy because life is a never ending cycle.
It would always provide you more and better shoes for you to aspire to get, so why not derive happiness from this wonderful shoe you have got.
4. Have a right mindset:
Learn to be the master of your mind. Try to understand that there’s no perfect life even though it appears as such.
Keeping in mind this thought of, how better your friend is than you’re, would only push you to run a race that’s not for you.
Choosing to be content with the life you have, will also make people appreciate the kind of life you live also.
“A contented life is a happy life.”
5. Do what you love:
Involving yourself with what you love would give a better chance to be contented compared to doing what you don’t love.
For instance, when you’re happy dancing there would be no room to envy anyone because it’s what you love to do and you will be happy to be great at doing it.
These are the best ways to achieve contentment with little resources.
Contentment is a principle with discipline which must be made as a habit for a continuous happy life.
Always learn to be grateful for the life you have. Stop the habit of discontentment and comparison because no life is perfect and start enjoying the importance of showing gratitude to God.